Girls just want to have FUN(damental rights)
Well, I could have known that I would be tagged by Annemerel forcing me to write more sooner or later, thanks gurl. This one is called the “Month of the Young Woman”-tag, which, because of it’s expiration date, also forces me to post it in october (while it’s still the month of the young woman). So, here I am, writing away at the breakfast table. I have just enough time to finish it up before my train leaves to Amsterdam (I have one class today) and after that we go to Newcastle for three days. Yay! If you have any must-see’s (or recommendations to places to eat/have dinner), please feel free to leave them in the comments. I will be eternally grateful!
This tag originates from Anne’s blog and if you go over there, you can read all about it (if you read dutch). For the non-dutchies: in short it’s a tag with 7 questions about being a woman, growing up and feminism. I translated this tag in kind of a hurry, so excuse me if the translation is a bit rough.
1. What do you like about growing up? And is there anything about that you don’t enjoy?
The things I like about growing up are by far outnumbering the negative stuff. I like my freedom and being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want it. I like making my own decisions and going to sleep whenever I want (I remember being super frustrated when I was a kid about having to go to bed right in the middle of watching a detective JUST BECAUSE. My parents were relentless, lol). The things I don’t like? Taxes! And the rest of the money stuff.
2. Which aspects/successes in your life make you feel proud? My relationship is certainly one of them, which probably sounds a bit odd, but it’s true. We’ve endured some ups and downs, it’s a part of life, but we are such a strong front. And we have a lot of fun together! So yes, I’m certainly proud of the LOVE in (of) my life :) And other than that… I’m proud of myself for finally learning to say no (and being ok with it), writing and finishing my thesis was kind of an accomplishment, just as living abroad, and I can feel proud when I see I make people happy with stuff I do for them.
3. What thing(s) from your youth gives you the best feeling of nostalgia?
Watching Disney movies, going to the beach late at night in summer and count stars (hey, I was 16, that’s still youthful) and reading my Harry Potter books.
4. Any awful fashion decisions in the past? (pictures? ;))
Yesssssss, a lot! I was an Avril Lavigne wannabe and totally wanted to be a cool rock/goth chick. Unfortunately I really wasn’t as cool and it took me a few years to grasp that concept. It. was. awful. Trust me. No pictures though, I was very shy ;-)
5. How do you feel about feminism?
Strongly. I am a feminist. That doesn’t mean I hate men (of course not, the fact that I even have to explain that baffles me). I believe men and women should have equal rights and I believe that should work both ways. I don’t think that men are actively suppressing women, I believe we do that as a society. Even woman to woman. It’s a lot more complicated than that (I could probably talk for ages about the subject), but in short: yes, I’m a feminist.
6. Have you ever been treated differently because of your gender?
Yes, of course. I think it is very naive to think that men and woman are exactly the same (just as no person is exactly the same as the other) and therefor I think it’s not strange we get treated differently. What does bother me is if that works out negatively, by being called “just a girl” or, in the case of men, they should “stop acting like a girl” whenever they show any really emotion. Personally I feel I have been treated differently because of my gender in negative way more than once (mostly happened in worksituations or in the classroom). Do I see myself as a victim though? No. It just makes me want to work harder :) Or proof to them I CAN do it! Of course that is really easy for me to say. In some countries women may not go to school, or go alone outside without a man or drive a car. I can not even imagine how that must be. And the (sexual) violence some women have to endure… In Sweden I took a class about violence against women in a global perspective and it learned me so much about gender roles and all the stuff women (and men) have to endure because of their gender. It even more convinced me to be a more active feminist.
7. What would you like to say to your mom?
Stay strong mommy. :-*
And of course, feel free to tag along (hehe, see what I did there, I’m so funny). If you’ve also posted this tag, feel free to leave the url in the comments, I would love to check it out.
Alright, see you in november folks. xoxo